When Bad Things Happen to Good People–Beth Trissel


trees flowering in our yard“It’s so curious: one can resist tears and ‘behave’ very well in the hardest hours of grief. But then someone makes you a friendly sign behind a window, or one notices that a flower that was in bud only yesterday has suddenly blossomed, or a letter slips from a drawer… and everything collapses.” ~Colette

“The sorrow which has no vent in tears may make other organs weep.”  ~Henry Maudsley

(Blooming trees and new leaves in our yard)

Dove, Bird, Flying, White, Spirituality, Symbols Of Peace, Wing,Yesterday, my sister-in-law Catarina (my husband’s brother’s wife) an indomitable woman I’ve known since I was a teenager and always thought would live to be 100,  passed away suddenly from a ruptured aneurysm in her brain. The surgery performed to prevent this fatal outcome (involving a stint) was pronounced a triumph, but something went terribly wrong not many hours after.  We do not yet know why and await word from the autopsy. But for whatever reason, she’s taken from her loved ones and is in heaven now. It’s those left behind who suffer and deeply mourn her loss.

I feel especially sad for her grandbabies and the many children this motherly woman has cared for over the years in her home and her ministries with the little ones at our church.  Being a pensive soul, I’ve found some good quotes and books that may offer comfort in a hurting world. This has been an especially horrific week in America with the bombs at the Boston Marathon and explosion at the fertilizer plant in Texas.

Old Church 101“Often imitated but never superseded, When Bad Things Happen to Good People is a classic that offers clear thinking and consolation in times of sorrow. Since its original publication in 1981, When Bad Things Happen to Good People has brought solace and hope to millions of readers and its author has become a nationally known spiritual leader” (A book quote from Amazon)

“Even hundredfold grief is divisible by love.” ~Terri Guillemets

“Grieving is a necessary passage and a difficult transition to finally letting go of sorrow – it is not a permanent rest stop.”  ~Dodinsky, www.dodinsky.com

“Many suffering people want to love God, but cannot see past their tears, says Philip Yancey. They feel hurt and betrayed. Sadly, the church often responds with more confusion than comfort. This current edition of what is perhaps Yancey’s best-known book should speak to anyone for whom life sometimes just doesn’t make sense. And it should help equip anyone who wants to reach out to someone in pain but just doesn’t know what to say.” (From Amazon)
Phillip Yancey’s What’s So Amazing About Grace, is also a wonderfully uplifting book.
Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.  ~From a headstone in Ireland
“While we are mourning the loss of our friend, others are rejoicing to meet him behind the veil.”  ~John Taylor

Angel, Cemetery, Statue, Tombstone, Cherub, Child, Stone, Grave, Praying, Church“Sorrow you can hold, however desolating, if nobody speaks to you.  If they speak, you break down.”  ~Bede Jarrett

Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak whispers the o’er-fraught heart and bids it break.  ~William Shakespeare

Sorrow makes us all children again — destroys all differences of intellect. The wisest know nothing. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Images of: *Dove of the Holy Spirit *Stained glass windows in Episcopalian Church in Staunton, VA, *Ancient Mosaic of Jesus Christ in church of Hagia Sophia in Istanbul, Turkey *Angel Cherub Cemetery Statue

9 responses to “When Bad Things Happen to Good People–Beth Trissel

  1. Bless your heart Beth. I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my beloved mother to this many years ago. I wish there were some way to comfort you. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
    Sue B

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  2. So sorry for your loss, Beth. I lost a best friend to a brain aneurysm years ago. I know your strong faith will help you mend your broken heart and offer strength for your sister-in-law’s family. Blessings on your and yours,
    Carolyn

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    • Thanks Caroline. Much appreciated. I can’t tell you how many people are telling me they’ve lost loved ones to aneurysms. I’m beginning to think we should all have our brains scanned.

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  3. So sorry for your loss, Beth.

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  4. I’m so sorry Beth. The death of a loved one is so hard to understand. I think the most comforting poem I read when my husband died was the one about a ship sailing off, and the peole on the dock waving goodbye. And then, once passed over the horizon, others shouting, “Thar she blows” as loved ones from the past greeted the ship. I still cry everytime I think about it, (like right now!) but as Christians, we know we will see them again. My deepest condolences to you and your family. I know she leaves a great hollow spot in the heart, but she also leaves wonderful memories and love behind. Love you girl,

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  5. That is a beautiful tribute to your sister-in-law and so right for now.Thank you for posting it.

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